Let's talk about sex.
Sex isn't a dirty word. Sex isn't a dirty thing. In fact, sex within marriage is beautiful. However, Our society has twisted the concept of sex and confused our culture.
Before I get started, as I know what a touchy subject this is, I want to say a few things, disclaimers if you will. First of all, many of you who have been sexually active in the past, or are currently sexually active, have already tuned me out, if you're even still reading. Don't. Give me a chance. Listen to what I have to say. This is for you just as much, if not more, than for any other readers.
Second, just because I blog about something, doesn't mean I'm perfect or have been perfect in that area. In fact, what I choose to write about often comes out of life lessons I've learned personally, or just things I'm strongly convicted about.
Third, nothing I say here is intended to come across as "holier than thou." Actually, it's the exact opposite. I am a forgiven sinner just like you. If you have any questions or want more scripture references or information on anything I've talked about in this post (or other posts), please email me at heidilynne91@gmail.com. I'd love to help in any way that I can.
The first thing I want to start with is a reference to scripture, because I want you to understand where I'm deriving my opinions from. I know that society has painted sex in a different light than what it was intended for by God and that being sexually active before marriage is very common and even encouraged in our culture. I want to change how you see it.
1 Corinthians 6:13-20
13. Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food - and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.
14. And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power.
15. Do you not know that your bodies are member of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never!
16. Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For as it is written, "The two will become one flesh."
17. But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.
18. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
19. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own,
20. for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
Before I begin to pick apart any of these verses, I want you to ask yourself a question.
"What are my intentions?"
Are you looking for what you're allowed to do? Are you looking for what you can get away with? If the answers are yes to either, then you need to adjust your intentions and your motives before you can fully believe and obey any of God's word.
If you're not committed to seeking to please God in everything you do, then nothing I have to say about sexual purity today is going to help you because that is another issue in itself.
Verse 13(b) - The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.
This is pretty straightforwardly telling us that our body is meant for the Lord's purposes, and that immorality is not one of His purposes for us. Immorality is defined as: sexual misconduct, wickedness, evil, dishonesty, etc.
So what exactly is sexual misconduct? Let's continue...
Verses 15 & 16 - Do you not know that your bodies are member of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For as it is written, "The two shall become one flesh."
This clearly shows us that our bodies are members (an individual thing belonging to a group) of Christ. Christians are people who belong to Christ. The next few lines discuss that when two people have sex, they become members of each other, or they become one. The ONLY person we should become one with is God first, and our spouse second. If we are becoming one with anyone other than God or our spouse, we are committing sexual misconduct.
This next verse is what really convicted me.
Verse 17 - But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.
When I read this, I heard as clear as day, "The Lord cannot join with someone who is joined to someone else outside of marriage." Call me crazy, but I believe God still speaks to our hearts if we are open to listen.
This is where your motivation comes in. Are you motivated to see what you can get away with, or are you motivated to be one with the Lord?
Think about that.
Versse 18-20 - Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
These verses are also pretty cut and dry.
Run far away from sexual immorality (sex outside of marriage). Period.
Why would you want to commit a sin against yourself? Why would you intentionally hurt your own body? You were purchased by Jesus' life on the cross, so therefore, it isn't even yours to do as you want. It is His. We are to live in a way that pleases God and God alone.
Which brings me back to the original question: What are your intentions?
Are you wholeheartedly seeking to please God in everything you do?
Are you sold out, willing to give every inch of your heart and soul to Him, including your sexual purity? Are you REALLY a follower? Or are you just a fan?
If a man loves you, and loves God more than you (which is how it should be), he will wait. If he won't wait, then it's not you he wants, but it's sex. Anyone can say "I love you," but the ultimate test is proving it.
The first step to staying pure in your current, or any upcoming relationships is talking about it. Bring out your Bible, have your significant other read these verses. If they react in anger, you'll know that your relationship isn't about love, it's about sex. If they believe God and the word of God as you do, they'll agree. Putting your convictions out in the open and discussing what you read in your devotion time with God is a good way to keep healthy communication in your God first relationship.
God is love. God is forgiveness. Anything you've done, or will do, He can and will forgive. But let me warn you not to be a r e p e a t o f f e n d e r . Don't use the excuse that God will forgive you to purposefully commit the same sins over and over and over again.
Because if you know what is right in your heart, and you continue to do wrong, are you truly even sorry?
Seek God. Stay pure.
The first thing I want to start with is a reference to scripture, because I want you to understand where I'm deriving my opinions from. I know that society has painted sex in a different light than what it was intended for by God and that being sexually active before marriage is very common and even encouraged in our culture. I want to change how you see it.
1 Corinthians 6:13-20
13. Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food - and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.
14. And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power.
15. Do you not know that your bodies are member of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never!
16. Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For as it is written, "The two will become one flesh."
17. But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.
18. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
19. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own,
20. for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
Before I begin to pick apart any of these verses, I want you to ask yourself a question.
"What are my intentions?"
Are you looking for what you're allowed to do? Are you looking for what you can get away with? If the answers are yes to either, then you need to adjust your intentions and your motives before you can fully believe and obey any of God's word.
If you're not committed to seeking to please God in everything you do, then nothing I have to say about sexual purity today is going to help you because that is another issue in itself.
Verse 13(b) - The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.
This is pretty straightforwardly telling us that our body is meant for the Lord's purposes, and that immorality is not one of His purposes for us. Immorality is defined as: sexual misconduct, wickedness, evil, dishonesty, etc.
So what exactly is sexual misconduct? Let's continue...
Verses 15 & 16 - Do you not know that your bodies are member of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For as it is written, "The two shall become one flesh."
This clearly shows us that our bodies are members (an individual thing belonging to a group) of Christ. Christians are people who belong to Christ. The next few lines discuss that when two people have sex, they become members of each other, or they become one. The ONLY person we should become one with is God first, and our spouse second. If we are becoming one with anyone other than God or our spouse, we are committing sexual misconduct.
This next verse is what really convicted me.
Verse 17 - But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.
When I read this, I heard as clear as day, "The Lord cannot join with someone who is joined to someone else outside of marriage." Call me crazy, but I believe God still speaks to our hearts if we are open to listen.
This is where your motivation comes in. Are you motivated to see what you can get away with, or are you motivated to be one with the Lord?
Think about that.
Versse 18-20 - Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
These verses are also pretty cut and dry.
Run far away from sexual immorality (sex outside of marriage). Period.
Why would you want to commit a sin against yourself? Why would you intentionally hurt your own body? You were purchased by Jesus' life on the cross, so therefore, it isn't even yours to do as you want. It is His. We are to live in a way that pleases God and God alone.
Which brings me back to the original question: What are your intentions?
Are you wholeheartedly seeking to please God in everything you do?
Are you sold out, willing to give every inch of your heart and soul to Him, including your sexual purity? Are you REALLY a follower? Or are you just a fan?
If a man loves you, and loves God more than you (which is how it should be), he will wait. If he won't wait, then it's not you he wants, but it's sex. Anyone can say "I love you," but the ultimate test is proving it.
The first step to staying pure in your current, or any upcoming relationships is talking about it. Bring out your Bible, have your significant other read these verses. If they react in anger, you'll know that your relationship isn't about love, it's about sex. If they believe God and the word of God as you do, they'll agree. Putting your convictions out in the open and discussing what you read in your devotion time with God is a good way to keep healthy communication in your God first relationship.
God is love. God is forgiveness. Anything you've done, or will do, He can and will forgive. But let me warn you not to be a r e p e a t o f f e n d e r . Don't use the excuse that God will forgive you to purposefully commit the same sins over and over and over again.
Because if you know what is right in your heart, and you continue to do wrong, are you truly even sorry?
Seek God. Stay pure.
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